Re: Butch
How do I know I'm not just butch? Great question. I'll preface my answer with I'm not sure about any of this, neither the facts around which I base my answer nor the answer itself.
I think what butch means is an alternative way of being female. Having a traditionally masculine appearance doesn't make you any less female. Or that womanhood is fundamental enough that appearance, physique, mannerisms, fashion cannot touch it.
I feel the same way about not being female. The former part makes it hard to communicate that though.